Molding something positive from something negative

I have only ever wished to express my thoughts freely but they only ever hurt other people. Is it my fault for being bluntly honest or are the people around me so immature that they can't accept everything graciously?

I believe that it is absolutely right to give clarifications when people get a wrong idea about what you are as a person or when they pass judgement without even analyzing you thoroughly. But at the same time i also think that a person loses an opportunity at self improvement when he\she ignores any critical comments from others about themselves.

 I suggest that we should at least listen carefully to whatever another has to say about you and then give a suitable answer after looking inside yourself.It does not help one to reckless and blame the other person for being mean when you haven't even given the chance to yourself to... speculate about what made the other person think this way.

Always thinking that you are never at fault can lead to the loss of very important people in your life. So let us move forward and be on our way in this journey of life, at the same time make our life a bit less crooked... ;)

(I know I'm sounding like a motivation expert or something, don't have the exact words for that but my attempt today is to write something with a positive vibe when I'm feeling completely negative.Somehow i feel I've accomplished that today.)